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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
My husband knows I am constantly on here posting about myself as well as talking with others. He is the one who said he thinks I have BPD. He knows the focus of all my 'disorder' is my bad relationship with him because of HIS actions.
He is constantly on his iPhone playing games, reading the news, scanning Facebook, yet he has no interest or inclination to go and look on here to see what the hell I am writing.
If I knew he was on here writing about him and me, I would definitely be secretly reading what he is writing and trying to solve our problem. Isn't it strange that he doesn't even care?
What's your experience with this?
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if my SO wanted to talk about me and her, then she should do that with me, if she wants me to know what her concerns are, talk to ME.
Saying that you wish that your SO was "concerned" or cared enough to spy on your threads and secretly reading what you're writing is faulty thinking iMO. I mean first off, you each have your own private space. It should be respected and if he is aware of the fact you post here, I imagine for him, it's enough that you're aware he can come look at any time, but outside of that he doesn't need to go looking for, or watching what you type. That just seems like an invitation for a disastrous situation there.
ofc your stating that you would be spying/secretly reading his writing makes me think about your opinions on privacy. Does it concern you that you know you'd be the type of person that would do this kind of thing? he and you both once again, I repeat, have a right to some privacy! even if it's not that you're hiding anything, there should be no spying or secret reading going on in any relationship.
Why not instead actively bring up the subjects yourself that you voice on here?
tldr; it's not a sign he doesn't care that he won't spy on your forum activity.