I have had major problems with managing money in relationships. When I'm manic I CANNOT STOP SPENDING.
My last boyfriend (9years) and I shared checking/savings and it was a complete nightmare. He checked in on me constantly and nag nag nagged me. I, in turn flew off the handle. I overspent. I ran up tens of thousands in credit card debt and had to go through a credit counseling program. He treated me like a baby and a child. I physically assaulted him. Eventually money was on the list of reasons we split. I'll never share money again.

Now in my new relationship, I hide purchases and downplay spending. I blame the past. My partner should probably know what's up with my spending. I'm good at faking wellness but my spending is a dead giveaway and it jeopardizes our comfortable living. Last month I spent 8,000 on nothing. He doesn't know at all. I own the house we live in with a sizable mortgage that I have to be able to pay. I've also gotten in about ten grand over my head with the irs. Now that I'm back on earth, depressed even, I wish I could tell him how bad I've been and share the burden. At least get some support, but ****, I'm too ashamed and overwhelmed.

So money and relationships with bipolar...
Do better than me and be open.
Give your cards to your wife when you aren't well. Take an allowance. Don't repeat the cycle or allow it to ruin your primary relationship. Do it for you and for your love of her.

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