I just realized this in enough detail to share....Males that plural isn't it safe to assume there are tough on themselves? Host male that has to keep that facade that covertness in order not to seem different. The whole male masculinity. How is that fair to compare to Host that is a female too me it would be different. I just want to encourage a system to be gentle with yourself not everyone wants the abusive approach were every memory issue or lack of functioning deserves punishment to me that breeds negativity, superiority, perfectionist, OCD traits, conceitedness, it is a form of self harm.