Well, knowing him as I do, he really doesn't care. It does not even cross his mind to 'spy'. If it did, you might be right, that he doesn't because he respects boundaries.

If it were the reverse, I absolutely would be reading it in hopes of repairing my marriage.

I don't spy on his Facebook or anything else. I do respect boundaries for the most part.

I have talked to him about all my feelings. I have talked myself blue in the face. No hopes of solving my problem.

I guess posting here doesn't solve anything, either.

Nothing solves my problem.

Shut mouth. Cry alone.