I mentioned in another post the importance of acknowledgement for me. To 'forget' would mean having to negate the acknowledgement. And, it is the lack of acknowledgement that causes my resentment and builds into rage.

So, my suggestion is to first seek that acknowledgement for this situation you are in; particularly, that you are a victim here.

I am one who holds on to misdeeds or lack of respect placed upon me. I just can't seem to get beyond it myself. It is probably why I post so much in these forums as the acknowledgement I seek isn't just that I have emotional pain but that the wrong exisists in the first place. Not sure if this makes sense, but the rage I feel for a situation increases with the decrease of admission/recognition I have been hurt or disrespected.

Although the resentment continues to exist in the background therapy has helped me to work around it. Oh burying it I have been told not to do - that just opens the doors for triggering. Instead I work on an evidence list. For example what is the evidence I had a part in it, what is the evidence I didn't, what is the evidence I am then a good person? So to the consideration of where I am at a particular moment in time, as in is there evidence I am better off right now.

I hope this rambling contains something that will help.