Excellent posts above!

Twisted, IMO it's entirely too soon to even worry about ever "forgiving" this guy.

This is betrayal on a huge huge scale. You are not just wounded by it, but also in a state of shock -- not a proper basis from which to make any life-direction decisions except what must be done right now to keep yourself & family (and society! grr) safe.

Again, all imo. Take care of yourself, be gentle with yourself -- and remember that he will have to deal with his own consequences.

OK he's getting "help". He's got a lot of proving to do just to be considered a decent human member of society -- if ever. Unless and until -- if ever, again -- that he manages to prove this, he is his own problem.

I'm so sorry you are going thru such a horrible time. Seek support and, yes, counselling for yourself....he's got his own rocks to tote.

Hugs,
Chyia, sending warm thoughts