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Originally Posted by HAL_9000
The first thing my therapist told me after I confessed my feelings and attraction to her was: "We never could, can or will have a relationship like that". There wasn't exploration nor did she let me have the feelings. That happened the session after I told her how I feel. I felt like I was castrated. I didn't buy it at the start, I asked why is it 'unethical' - no answer. The next session she told me she's seeing someone! Like - Listen we never could can will blabla but just so you know I have a boyfriend so you can even be jealous now, how good for you. The next session I got out of her that she's not attracted to me and after that I had to leave. She was grooming me emotionally just to pull the rug from under my feet. I felt humiliated, used, weak, hopeless.
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That is horrible. My experience was similar, except that I knew my therapist was married. And she was not so cold-hearted, tried to be nice about rejecting me. In a way that was more confusing. Benevolent tormentor. The effect was the same though -- humiliated, used, weak, hopeless, and more.
Making a client feel jealous, frustrated, rejected, humiliated by seducing and coaxing them, then reminding them that their feelings and needs will never be gratified… it's presumed to have therapeutic potential. But it's really just abusive. It violates the principle of first do no harm.