Tisha. I'm sorry for your struggles with your husband. I don't know the details of what your confrontations are about, which buttons are the ones he pushes or any details from just this and maybe one other of your threads I've read but I do know how It is to be with someone that does such things. I was in my relationship, married, now separated (unfortunately still living with her) for over 14 years enduring such things. Still is starting to crop up now after she's been "living separately" in my home for almost a year.

I hate to think that you're dealing with such things but apparently you're as bad if not worse off than I have been. I am only still married to her because she has to get out and live away for a year before we can sever the ties. I dunno if this is an option for you but instead of waiting on him to divorce you as you said, you should do it if that's what you want and you see no hope in things improving. I'm not one to push divorce but there are appropriate situations for it.

*hugs*