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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
It's creepy because 1: He's STARING, and 2: he's old enough to be my grandpa. Not because he looks unattractive. I can't speak on behalf of anyone else but that is the creep factor for me where much older and much younger is concerned. It's just eeeuw both ways. Why would I want to date someone I could have birthed or could've been instrumental in the birth that lead to mine????
Why Shadix?
If you find nothing inappropriate or creepy about it, fine. But don't judge others for having such a visceral reaction.
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If it was really about parental age difference, then I would expect women to have the same reaction to much younger guys hitting on them. But so far, I have not noticed women describing young guys who hit on older women as creepy. It seems to me like most 50 year old women would be flattered to get attention from a 20 year old guy. Meanwhile, you see so many 20 year old girls who are creeped out by guys as young as 30. That age difference is not in the parental range. So what gives?
I am not judging you for the visceral reaction, I am just trying to understand what the reason is behind it.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
And its not about being checked out, look if you like what you see, by all means even compliment me, I will say "thank you" graciously.
But DON'T stare and practically salivate, that is the point where you cross the line from complimentary to creepy.
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But just a second ago you were saying that the issue is the age difference. So it would seem that there is an issue regardless of whether or not the guy stares and salivates or just politely gives you a compliment.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I'm only 32 this year so I wont date younger, just no. It would be like dating a child, however if I were on the dating market I would date my age and a decade + older. Anything older than 50 would be in the parental age range and I find it creepy / inappropriate that someone who's old enough to be your parent (regardless of gender) is ok with wanting to see you naked.
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Good for you. I am 28 and I most certainly WOULD date younger. Most of the people I hang out with are about 23-24, and it doesn't even feel like there is an age difference between us when I am hanging out with them.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Maybe its because I have strong family values and I'm thinking from a mother / nurturing perspective (eeeuw he could be my son / grandpa), because even my brother says that if he hears guys talking about how they're dating someone much younger, he instinctively thinks they either don't have younger sisters or have no relationship with them. And so far he's usually right.
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Siblings are typically 2-3 years apart in age. So is your brother opposed to dating girls 2-3 years younger than himself?