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Originally Posted by Shadix
It does seem very much to me like the vast majority of girls are attracted to this personality type which is characterized by a witty, charismatic type, which is exactly the personality my brother has. I absolutely cannot stand to be around him. It is almost as though he is intentionally trying to steal my thunder. He seems to be trying to create attraction in EVERY person he meets. He can't just tone it down ever. What the **** is his problem?
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"witty, charismatic type"
1. Witty is an ability to use humor in a way that makes people smile and laugh. Definitely not a personality type exclusive to people that are outgoing.
2. Charismatic is a characteristic of some personalities that means that they have a certain magnetism toward people. Also nothing to do with extro-intro vert personalities because both can be charismatic.
IDR if I mentioned this in your thread or elsewhere but fact is, it always seems like people (both male and female) are attracted more to the extroverts, and people that are outgoing, more verbal and interactive. YOU CAN'T MISS THEM! they are not in the corner being quiet, or at a table talking to only their closest friends and being reserved. They are getting out there and being seen. IT doesn't make it better but my point is that even if the same amount of introverted quiet people are making connections, you wouldn't see it. They don't shout out to the world I HAVE A HOT GIRLFRIEND (or boyfriend) AND LOVE HER! they are being ... introverted and reserved.
Do not be fooled by what is seen. Introverts are every bit as attractive as extroverts but It's just harder to spot them.
Not only that, if you're an outgoing person you probably meet more people. More people met = more chances to find the ones attracted to you. so even if they are meeting more women attracted to them it's about the number of friends they have an connections they have made not that being an extrovert is more attractive.