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Originally Posted by Robynlp96
The counseling session is still on.
It so hard cause I care for him, but so many broken things. He said the last time he was caught snooping my phone he would never do it again and then he does it again. Its the story of our entire marriage, we say something is going to change and it lasts a week then is back to the old ways. I have very little faith that things can change.
We are great together when we are with the kids or other people or talking about everyday random crap. But when it comes to us, its always hard and stressful. I slept on the couch last night and was able to relax and sleep for the first time in a long time. Most nights I wake up with tension throughout my shoulders and spine. I didn't wakeup once last night and you can't tell me its because my mom's 20 year old couch is more comfortable then my bed.
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I wonder if in marriage counseling he'll explore why he has such levels of distrust in snooping?
Sounds like a wall has grown between the two of you. Which sometimes happens over time and the mundane day to day of living and parenting. At the same time, it's not uncommon if there's been a history of ups and downs during the early years, setting themselves up to repeat patterns that push away instead of bring together. Takes an enormous amount of vulnerability and trust on their side.
Keep us posted.