Being stared at is really disturbing. It makes you wonder what they are planning to do.

It doesn't matter what age they are. The difference for me, is that say if a child is staring at me.... I usually go "do I have something on my face?" because they are a child. I'm 31, so if someone in their late teens, early 20s, was to stare at me I'd be thinking "Oh gawd, am I looking really old?!" - if it turned out that they were thinking the opposite, I'd then go "Oh gawd, they're way too young!".

If they are about 5 years younger than me up to about 10 years older, then I'd be thinking that he is rude, and if it was excessive staring I would then get really creeped out because I'd be wondering what his intentions are - it could be shyness, it could be more sinister.

If an older man is staring at me, I am going to be uncomfortable a lot quicker - because if they are staring at me, I KNOW it's a purely sexualized oggling and the thought of being with someone who could be my parent is just... gross.

You might think you would be flattered to get stared at. But if it becomes a regular experience then no, you will NOT find it flattering - you will find it very disturbing. There's no real compliment in being stared at - someone is staring at you and it's like... attempting to violate your body without actually touching you. Because besides trying to imagine that person naked or doing something sexual, why else would you be staring for a long time? So... you know that's what is going on in their head.

And the reason why women are complaining about OLDER men... is because usually younger people (of any age here!) don't oggle people older than them. 20 year old men are much less likely to approach me than 40 year old men. Same age difference, but to the 20 year old I will be viewed as "older". And I am ok with that - because I am significantly older than them both in regards to age and my stage in life.

Some older men are very attractive. But it doesn't mean I'd want to do anything with them. I'll give the example of Johnny Depp - he's 53, I'm 31. I think he's very attractive. I've thought he was very attractive since I was a little girl and saw him in Nightmare Before Elm Street! I've never found him to not be attractive. But I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with him because we are so far apart in age: it's a 20 year difference! I don't consider Johnny Depp to be old, but he is "older" than I am.