I do a lot of self talk when I feel good or bad. I'm stable, but being stable is such a unique experience, I am constantly wary. I have to examine my situation, and compare it to my emotional state to see if I am having appropriate emotions.

What I am noticing as I am going through this analysis is that my emotions don't run me over. I feel like I am reacting naturally and I can make use of my emotions in the situation, or if it's just a response, that I can endure it or enjoy it.

If my mood is crappy, I also consciously check if there's a reason, and if it's like a hangover from an earlier experience, I can use DBT or CBT to determine what to do about it and improve my mood. I find I have mood habits: if I have a bad experience I tend to travel that brain rut that usually takes me to a depressed or irritable space. I am aware it's happening, and I can subvert the process. Not that I can get a good pissy mood going any more...but I can see how habits became ingrained from years of feeling bad.

I don't know if that makes any sense, but that's what I find myself doing.