You can help it. You can change it. That's the point of therapy-- to change unhealthy behaviors and belief systems that are not working for you. Everyone else on this forum is working on improving themselves. Why should you just sit there, stay the same, complain about the same thing day after day? Life isn't fair. A lot of us got the short end of the stick. But we suck it up and work to make our lives better from this point forward. You could choose to do the same.