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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Shadix I am not being judgemental.
I am just responding to your many threads about the trouble you have and yes how your really overthinking things. You have been given loads of advice from A to Z .. and basically every bit of the advice you dismiss and argue how " this or that isn't going to help"
Im sorry you had trauma in the past.. Trauma sucks but at some point you have to just take a leap of faith... Personally I don't know anyone that doesn't have trauma and baggage to overcome in life. I'm not invalidating your feelings... Just stating a fact.
You said your brother has no problem catching the attention of ladies.. I cant imagine him wanting to steal some woman away from you, You yourself said you are not actively looking for someone to marry....Just someone to date , have fun with... Sure it might lead to more.. If it doesn't at least you got out there and the next woman you meet it will be easier for you to approach I bet.
I don't think your petty or jealous ... I just think that your sending vibes that might not be attractive to single women looking for someone to date.
My stepson is 28 and he has dated girls from 18 to his current Girlfriend that is 34 ... There is nothing wrong with him dating this age range nothing at all ... I really wish you could get over that whole "age thing"
I wish you the best..
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I don't think you are being judgemental, I just put that guideline in to remind people not to pass judgement on me after they read my post and realize how petty and jealous I am being.
However I do think the age thing is a big issue. As if I didn't have enough problems being socially awkward and not knowing what to say in social situations, but yes I do believe I will be judged for dating girls in their early 20s now that I am a good 5 years older than them, and it will only get worse in the next few years. Just read some of the posts on here and you will see the level of contempt many women have for mem they perceive as pursuing "younger women". And it goes beyond that, the role society assigns to men past the age of 26 or so is very different from that assigned to guy in his early 20s or teens. Guys my age are sexually repressed. We are barely even allowed to show interest in women. I believe it is all a conspiracy aimed at pressuring us to stop playng the field and settle down. The social scene is set up in a way that if we don't have our fun in college, we cannot make up for it later. I really wish it was as simple as "just go out and date who you want" but unfortunately it is not.