For goodness sakes - get out of there and find a new church. Start fresh.

Ask yourself some questions:

What do you like about yourself.
What sort of things do you like in others.
What sort of thing do you dislike about others. Does any of this ring true with yourself.
What then is what you consider a friend; what would be their attrbutes. Does any of this ring true with yourself.

Another way to look at this is to 1) list off the worst things you dislike in other people 2) the best things 3) the most likely things to find in other people. Now consider where you fall into that.