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Old Jun 24, 2016, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Waterbear View Post
I had this problem too and am still struggling but it is something we are working on all of the time. Something that has been particularly useful has been for my T to show her emotion and talk about it and we can discuss it. If something I say makes her excited she will tell me, tell me how it feels in her body if it does appear there and tell me why she felt excited. The same for her feelings of sadness and vulnerability etc. I think she is quite careful about which emotions she shows to me for obvious reasons and I do understand that this might not be something for everyone but largely I am finding it helpful in realising that emotions are normal and it is safe to share these with other people. Since we have been doing this I have experienced a calm peace, disappointment and sadness on top of my usual anxiety which is a positive step forward. I have also made baby steps towards sharing these with my T and I hope that this continues.

Sorry to hear about the hug thing too.
Thanks for your reply!
My T kind of does this. She doesn't go into where she feels it in her body or anything but she will say things like "that sounds really sad" or "I feel a real sense of hopelessness and heaviness in the room". Those things do help me a little bit but there is still something blocking me from really feeling it. I guess it just takes time but I would have thought after 6 months I would have made more progress than this