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Originally Posted by ECHOES
Do you know why you felt really angry at your T during the silence? Do you know what you wanted from her? (To rescue you, rescue the session, by breaking the silence?).
Sometimes I just like to 'be there' with my T. She knows this because I told her (not easy!). I still sometimes feel like I don't know what to talk about and we talk about why that might be (from shame to my fears: of looking stupid, sounding boring, or other reasons I might be pulling myself back - fear of displeasing her [and ultimately losing her], fear of feeling, fear of judgment, etc). We've talked about these times, feelings, and fears many times, as a person does in therapy.
Stay positive, be curious about what is going on with you internally (and without judgment) because these situations are perfect for learning about you. Keep going  |
Thanks for the reply!
I wrote another thread about the silence a while ago and didn't want to go into again because my post would be super long. Basically though, I did want T to "rescue me".
I'm wondering now though if more silences could actually be helpful. I mean not for 20mins but maybe just 5mins so I can have a bit of time to absorb what is happening. I might suggest that to T. I usually write down the stuff I want to talk about and read it to T so we don't usually have any extended silences. I still have fears of looking stupid and stuff like that which I have spoken to T about a number of times.