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Originally Posted by Teddy:)
What would your thoughts and feelings be if your T (whom you a very attached too) failed to prepare you for a separation? When a large amount of your work together has been to do with learning to trust again and working through your massive fear of abandonment?
Is it reasonable to feel very hurt and let down?
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Feelings are just what they are. They don't live by the same rules as intellect.
I do think advance notice of breaks is helpful. My T normally gives me a few weeks notice. But after being with her for so long I can predict roughly when breaks will occur.
I also think, early in my therapy, no amount of preparing would have stopped the feelings I experienced.
Nor do I think it should have. I needed to reexperience those young feelings of loss and early let down to firstly learn new ways of coping ( a certain amount of stress is useful for this) and secondly to have a corrective experience with a skilled T.