I can understand about the incontinence - I have it too, a little bit. I've been practicing my kegels and it's helped a lot. I highly recommend doing kegels if you have any incontinence issues. I'm in my mid-50s and my doc thinks it's happened because of menopause. You can also get an estrogen cream to spead on your vulva area to help with this. Maybe these things will help you even though it's a medical side effect.