She doesn't ask me because she knows I don't want to do things with her. She has been pulling the 'oh, I can't make it to this thing you didn't invite me to,' for two years now. She just did it in April for some other trip I took. I think she says this to see if I will then invite her or encourage her to come. When I don't, she opts not to go (Sometimes. Sometimes she goes and follows me around).

When I was in my late teens/20s, she did everything with me. I would do things with my mother instead of with friends, like a normal person. When I finally moved out, my eyes were opened to how weird it was and I broke away. I think she is scared to do things by herself and doesn't have many friends. She uses her kids as friends (or tries to), but none of us want to be around her.

I try to keep the specifics of what I do away from her, but things slip out. I never directly tell her that I am going here or there ahead of time because she will say right then and there that she wants to go to, no matter how little interest I think she will have in something. It's just so frustrating. I can't tell anyone in my family about my travel plans in case my mother hears and copies me?