Also, a lot of the stuff I do is somewhat niche, not the kind of thing most people want to tag along on. If I started talking about driving six hours away to do research in an archive, she would want to come. She tricked me enough with that kind of thing (where I would mention my plans, 'knowing' that she would have no interest in them), that I don't tell her *anything* ahead of time anymore. I do refer to things I have done in the past, and now she is using that information to guess at what I am going to do in the future.

Once she is there, she acts helpless, like she needs someone to guide her around. It's just so messed up, I can't stand it. I should also add that she is taking time off and booking tickets for some of this stuff, even when she cancels. It's actually possible that when she tells me she can't go to one of these things, she is just phishing for information as to whether or not *I* am going. I don't confirm or deny!

Maybe some people like to do stuff with their parents? I am so glad that I have siblings who can confirm that it's not just me in this case.