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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
When people tell you about themselves, they want to feel heard. They want you to stay on talking about them until they feel understood and validated. I personally HATE it when people keep taking what I say and telling me about themselves instead. Yes, I feel that they are just self-centered and don't care about me at all.
You have a great understanding of what you are doing that puts people off. I think if you just try to control your actions better, you'll be ok.
Even with the people you have scared off, you can repair those relationships. People are very forgiving if you change.
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That's the hard part to admit is that most people don't really get into the same conversation format I'm into? Like, I'll talk about myself, then I want them to tell me how they relate to it. I just need to rethink the way most people want a conversation to go down. Another example is, I hate compliments. I'll generally not say thank you, but instead I'll point out a flaw. That's probably rude as **** isn't it?
I'm just hoping I didn't screw up a job by my rambling self-centered conversations. But at the same time, when you're up for a job, you're kind of selling yourself. This guy has known me for a long long time, he has to be used to my ways by now. Let's hope. Next week is the big week... I think.
I hate the unknown, I get nervous, I start guessing, then I start talking, trying to justify all my past mistakes and conversations that might have been taken the wrong way.