here today......I was re reading this thread and noticed something.... you stated

"But since even my T, a specialist in dissociation, can’t accept this part of me and help to socialize her, I’m at my wit’s end."

just something you might not be aware of... a mental health treatment providers job isnt to become friends with and socialize with their clients. they can give ....you ....ideas on what social activities in your community that you and your alter can do but a therapists job isnt to sit there like a friend would entertaining your alters.

they work on problem's like if your alter has a problem with depression or other mental health issues.

for socializing usually alters have their own things that they like to do. some alters like to go to movies, others like to read, others like to go shopping or call a friend.

my suggestion is if you want to "socialize" your alter ask your alter what they like to do, then schedule time to do those things...

example one of my alters loved chocolate ice cream so I would make sure I went out to an ice cream place like Dairy Queen, or Mcdonalds or where ever else soft serve ice cream was being served. then i would buy a chocolate ice cream and sit there and eat it rather than go home. never fails while sitting there someone (other customers) would say something to me (afternoon, nice day isn't, hey that looks good what is it maybe Ill get one of those) thats what socializing is here in america. its spending time with other people of the same age and interests building friendships.

now if you mean socialize as in like one would tame an animal, well that doesnt happen with adults nor children. when an adult or child or alter is so much of a danger like a wild animal or stray that that they can not be trusted out in public in out patient settings what happens here in america is that person is committed to a hospital mental ward for being a danger to one self or others. or they are sent to a state mental hospital where they use such things as restraints, heavy medications, locked doors and such to prevent that person from harming oneself or others until they are able to be safe and no longer a danger to their self or others. the socialization activities in mental hospitals are very few such those that can be safe around others are allowed out of their rooms to roam the halls, sit in the solariums and lounges and eat their meals in the dining area while they talk to each other. because its a mental ward/hospital the conversations usually revolve around mental problems, health issues, whos on this diet or who's getting ECT that kind of thing.