i just found out my mom is cheating on my dad. Can't even begin to explain how i feel.
First, let me explain this. We come from a family that believes in God, and even if we dont practice the religion, we believe the fundamentals. Second, my parents have always had a good relationship. There were some problems in the past with his drinking, but that was years ago, and everything seems better now. Or so i thought.
We are a hispanic family, so we are all very close and family is very important to us. My mom was raised with the belief that women were supposed to stay home, take care of the kids etc.. but even with this she was always very independent.
Now to the issue.
Yesterday, while she was downstairs talking to her friend, i went into her bathroom to get something and her phone was there. messages were popping up "you are the best thing that ever happened to me" "youre the love of my life" with flower and heart emojis. This message was not my my dad. ANd my heart just broke. My hands started shaking. i was in disbelief. My mother who is the perfect woman in my eyes. who has always been independent and "dont need no man" to get **** done. she was pulling this ********.
And i thought "u know what, this doesnt mean anything." And that got me curious. Next day, i looked for every excuse to see her phone and when i finally did, i saw things i wish i never had.
And she is doing all this **** with a man we all in our family know.
a man who shakes my dad's hand. who eats with us in our table.
a man that i have never liked since i met him, because there was something so off about him. We have known him for years, since i was in high school. and that makes me wonder, How long has this crap been going on?
i am so disgusted at the audacity she has to let this man into our house. to let him interact with my father, my brother, and me.
How many times has she been texting him right in our faces? And the thing is, that i already knew it. Or to be more specific, it has always been in the back of my mind, because i never trusted the guy.
And so now, i dont know what to do.
Becuase to me my dad is my hero.
i know he is not perfect, but he is the best father i could have asked for. And as a husband, he is so good to her. Always providing for us. Working damn hard for us to be happy.
So what do i do?
How do i tell her i know?
how do i tell her that she is breaking or has broken our family?
that im disgusted everytime she touches my dad, becuase all i have in my mind is that man and her. Her lies.
The biggest lair i know. because i thought she was a good person.

How do i even begin that conversation.
i know i dont want to tell my dad just yet becuase i dont want to see him break. i cant even begin to imagine what this will do to our family.
What do i do?