Its hard to say without knowing more about you. For me, I have finally come to realize as I am forming healthy attachments for the first time is that the feeling of being attached was overwhelming for me. Not because attachment is bad, but because for me it was linked with abuse and my parents warped thinking. To carry love inside myself to me meant putting myself in danger. I had to slowly, by living out my attachment to my T , learn that it was NOT dangerous and the bad feelings were from my inability to let go of those negative scripts. So for me, the horrid , overwhelming place where I felt miserable and "too attached" was just a necessary stop on my journey.