Ughhh it downright sucks.

I found out my dad was cheating when I was 16. I chose not to get involved and tell my mother. Maybe I was selfish. I didn't want them separating. I thought my mother, for many reasons, stood to gain more being in the marriage than having it teared apart. Sounds strange me even typing that.

I was really angry when I found out. My mother did everything for my father (his second marriage). You know, did his washing, ironing, had dinner on the table when he came home etc.

I didn't confront my dad either at the time.

When I was about 25, my dad and I went out for dinner and I confronted him, and him only, about the fact that I knew he'd had affairs. Needless to say, he was stunned. But I knew for certainty that the affairs were over.

Fast forward to a little over 10 years and the two of them are as happy as Larry. Would it make a difference now, in their retirement, for my mother to know he had affairs?

There's no easy way out.

Maybe....

Confront the guy she's having an affair with? Send him a copy of the screenshot. That might give him food for thought.