well, sorry, but I think 2 months to way too long for that transgression. What would be the punishment if you caught him smoking or drinking?

I used to make my kids write an essay about the transgression and, in your case, why his actions affect your level of trust in him. That's really what it is all about, right? I might also take the ipod away for 2-3 days, or so, something they can comply with. To a 13 year old 2 months is a lifetime. Just my opinion, sorry you are going through this.

I assume your wife went ballistic because she also thought the punishment was extreme??? My H finally gave up being a control freak about the kids. I was the primary caregiver, so he really shouldn't have been so bossy about them. Like I said, he finally quit it and we got along much better after that.