everyone who's been talking to me (mutual friends) have told me things he's said and it's completely messed up, everything they tell me it really does sound like a major lack of empathy, everything they tell me seems to be about his regret because of the things and people he's lost, not what he's done to us... it just baffles me, I care about other people so much how could I not notice he didn't, I think back and I recall comforting him when he was upset lots, if I was upset he'd usually make it a reason to be upset himself (unless it was about my ex then he'd comfort me (I'd wake up crying with nightmares about my ex)) I'm so lost I don't know what to believe or think, I don't even know if I'm telling myself the truth anymore.