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Originally Posted by TwistedHell
everyone who's been talking to me (mutual friends) have told me things he's said and it's completely messed up, everything they tell me it really does sound like a major lack of empathy, everything they tell me seems to be about his regret because of the things and people he's lost, not what he's done to us... it just baffles me, I care about other people so much how could I not notice he didn't, I think back and I recall comforting him when he was upset lots, if I was upset he'd usually make it a reason to be upset himself (unless it was about my ex then he'd comfort me (I'd wake up crying with nightmares about my ex)) I'm so lost I don't know what to believe or think, I don't even know if I'm telling myself the truth anymore.
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The only "pain" or regret he likely feels is where it directly affected him negatively. That's just my guess...but he sounds like he can only care about himself and it's about getting what he wants, what he needs. No exceptions. It's doubtful he feels emotions at all except for anger, frustration, and a disdain for society. Unable to experience love, joy, concern for anyone other than himself.
I'm no expert it's just my impression. I had a sociopath in my life and I was blind to his true nature for years. When it blew up and his mask fell, I was shell shocked. It took me a long time to come to terms with it all. Years of deceit and so many lies and flat out betrayal. It was traumatic.
I decided to read every book I could get my hands on about the subject - books written by psychiatrists and mental health specialists. The Sociopath Next Door and LoveFraud helped me understand things. My eyes are open now. I mourned for someone that didn't exist. It was surreal in a bad way. But knowledge is power and I wanted to make sure I never would get snared again.
Thinking of you. You're a very strong lady. You will get through this and find happiness again. xoxo, Rainy