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Originally Posted by rainyday107
The only "pain" or regret he likely feels is where it directly affected him negatively. That's just my guess...but he sounds like he can only care about himself and it's about getting what he wants, what he needs. No exceptions. It's doubtful he feels emotions at all except for anger, frustration, and a disdain for society. Unable to experience love, joy, concern for anyone other than himself.
I'm no expert it's just my impression. I had a sociopath in my life and I was blind to his true nature for years. When it blew up and his mask fell, I was shell shocked. It took me a long time to come to terms with it all. Years of deceit and so many lies and flat out betrayal. It was traumatic.
I decided to read every book I could get my hands on about the subject - books written by psychiatrists and mental health specialists. The Sociopath Next Door and LoveFraud helped me understand things. My eyes are open now. I mourned for someone that didn't exist. It was surreal in a bad way. But knowledge is power and I wanted to make sure I never would get snared again.
Thinking of you. You're a very strong lady. You will get through this and find happiness again. xoxo, Rainy
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I'm still hoping, I wont know in-tell I speak to him, and I went over every possibility in my head a million times, I can hear lies when spoken, I said he spent some time lying, but in reality I never asked, I consider an omission of facts a lie but if it's not a spoken lie I can't tell, when he was being arrested I heard him lie, for the first time I realized I never asked questions, I trusted him and didn't feel the need to, with my ex-boyfriend I did ask questions I heard his lies constantly, maybe I didn't ask because I didn't want to hear that slight change of tone, that thing that made no sense, I don't know all the ways I can hear them... I only know I do, I was hoping to be able to speak to him first before everyone else so he didn't have time to rehearse but the stupid restraining order had my name on it, I take solace only in the fact there are some things i haven't told anyone, and he wont have time to rehearse a response.