She's getting information about my movements by listening to me talk about what I have done in the past. I've been vigilant about not letting her know where I will be ahead of time, but I didn't think that I needed to keep quiet about what I did last weekend. Now I know better, I guess, but I'm not sure there's anything I can do about it. When I see her, it's at family gatherings. I can't just not talk about what I've been doing with everyone!

As far as I know, she doesn't just show up at my sibling's events, which is actually kind of interesting. One sibling has been doing some performances, but she has not attended any. The dynamic with my brothers is different, I think because they are male. She still does a lot of the same weird guilt-trippy stuff with them, and was extremely overinvolved in their lives when they lived with her.

Thank you all for your empathy, suggestions, and listening. I get to the point where I feel like I am crazy with her sometimes. I can't tell if it's me or her. I really do feel hostile towards both my parents at this point and want nothing to do with them. I had actually started a post about her copying me a month ago but never finished it. It was in my history when I started this one!

If I am completely honest with myself, one of the events I'm attending this summer *is* something she would be interested in - but why did she never want to go before I went?

When you have a crazy parent, do you ever want to have a relationship with them? Am I supposed to want to be around her just because she is my mother, even though she is never going to get better? The very low contact really works for me because it seems like if she has a little bit of contact, she just wants more and more and more. I know it upsets her, though.