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Originally Posted by kamikazebaby
I like OKC's emails about how they compile their data, the statistics, etc.  |
I wouldn't expect to see any more. There hasn't been a new post since IAC (which owns just about every major dating site/app out there) bought them up. They pulled down the '
Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating' post down immediately, and the last entry was on September 10th, 2014. Your best bet is to just to buy (or borrow from the library... they still have those, right?) Dataclysm. The data in the book isn't just from Ok Cupid, but a number of sources.
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Curse of having a brain that just won't stop. Mine does the same thing, and I've had this same conversation with people who believe that "think positive" is all it takes. But it's tough to ignore the logic and lack of positive reinforcement. We are very social creatures, and it's not so easy to shrug off that kind of feedback.
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I'm generally a positive thinking type of person... but when it comes to dating, I've been wandering around in the void for so damn long now, that I just feel undesirable and worthless. I don't know why, but that's the reality I live in.
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Hopefully you won't take off out of frustration before we've had a chance to offer some feedback on what you have in your profile.
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I'll see what I can dig up, but like I said, I took down all my online dating profiles other than Twitter... which I haven't touched in months. I don't know that I kept anything. Maybe I should just start over.
I'm a little hesitant to get yet another "review" where strangers pick apart things that shouldn't really matter just for the sake of changing me into what their respective "ideal". This has all been quite depressing enough. I've been doing this for six years since my last long-term relationship ended. In that time, I've tried a lot of different things with little-to-no success. This has already gone into that territory. What do you all think is good enough to get a chance?
I don't think I'm a bad guy. I take care of myself and look halfway decent. I'm educated. I've done well career-wise. I have a sense of humor. I think I'm fun to be around: I enjoy travel & day trips, I like live music, art walks, museums, beaches, trying new restaurants, stand-up, coffee shops, catching movies, entertaining, cooking and relaxing at home. I don't have any debt, kids, crazy exes, roommates, family issues, STI/STDs... I'm not a racist*. Like I said, I'm generally positive about things. I'm well spoken/written. I don't send "sup, hottie?" messages, or send pics of my schwantz. I'm actually looking for a relationship. For all the anecdotal hemming and hawing about how "terrible" the (straight) male contingent represented in online dating is (we've already got a few stories here I see), I don't think I sound like a bad option. The thousands I've messaged and swiped have felt otherwise though.
*Seemed an important mention given the convo