incas: Isn't this the T you brought up your rupture with recently and it sounded like you weren't able to resolve it?

I think more than whatever's going on with T -- which is important, sure -- I would find it useful to just look at what it brings up for me internally (as in, why such an intense response to the other client etc).

Then depending on whether or not I think it would be useful to share it with the T (as in, both comfort level in bringing it up as well as whether or not you think the T would have anything useful to add to whatever you figure out on your own), you could consider sharing it (or not). But, either way, the real value I think (both in terms of the insight and gaining a sense of empowerment) is in trying to figure out for yourself what exactly this brings up / where it comes from for you.

For what it's worth, I do think your T needs to apologize for starting 10 mins late (that's not just a minute or two). And, since this is something verifiable -- starting 10 mins late -- I would ask the T as to what is going on that he hasn't bothered to offer an apology.

Good luck and hugs...