Mama, for all the time that I've known you, you've always acted with integrity and with your kids best interests at heart.

As you say, if you did go back in 6 weeks time, you would be returning to "insanity".

I think your T is right. She's worked with you for a long time, knows you well, and knows your situation well. If I am to be totally honest, by your above post, I think perhaps you're not quite ready just yet to go back in 6 weeks.

I don't like some of his behaviour. Demanding your son scrubs up like that is intimidating and utter nonsense on his behalf.

With regards to him licking himself in the bathroom, it's probably a safer strategy for him to give himself "time out". I'd let him have that time out as opposed to ra run in your face.

Now my thoughts about bringing up the past. There's a time and place to mention things that hurt us. No, you were not wrong for telling him how you feel. You see, some of his behaviour has not changed and this is what you're both working towards. I think it's more of pointing out what you'd like to see different in the future as opposed to dredging up the past unnecessarily. And if he can not acknowledge that his own behaviour was wrong then, then who's to know he wouldn't do something stupid again this 4th July.

Your feelings have been hurt too, more than his, so if you did by some 5% chance rattle his nerves, so be it.

In the famous line from The Never Ending Story:

"It's to hurt if it's to heal."

You can do this Mama. We've all got your back