1. I want you to hold me more than anything. If that's not possible, then when I'm sitting here with very scary, intense images in my head, could you please just reach out and take my hand? (This was the only one that I have come close to telling him... actually I handed it to him in a note and he read it in front of me. It wasn't quite as direct as what I wrote above. We didn't discuss it too much afterwards b/c I couldn't handle it. However, he did say, "Did you think I didn't already know that?"-- Then if you already knew it, why did you have let me torture myself and then stew in it, you %#@&#!!?!?!).

2. I am aware that this is tranference, but I must say that I am attracted to you in about 4,000 different ways. Let's work through this. (Proceed to discuss in a mature, analytical fashion).

3. Here is a CD I made for you.

4. I loved when you wore your glasses and I really miss that. Could you wear them from now on during our sessions?

5. That is the ugliest shirt I have ever seen. Do you own a mirror?