WOW. How very insiteful. Where does it say that he wats me for the chores, and to be his cook/cleaner, and slave? My words did not say that, (not in this thread) but my unspoken words must have spoken volumes. That is exactly what I am afraid I will become again. The maid.

Is that why he wants me back? maybe, IDK. WHo wouldn't want that back.

Does he want me or does he want someone to do the chores? IDK.

Sometimes I think he likes the label. It makes him look good. How things look means everything to some people. Successfully married, 3 kids, my wife doesn't have to work, we own a house, I put my wife in a new car and it is paid for.

IDK, I can see some good points some days. Other days, like today, I see lots of negatives.

Thank you for sharing your insight.

I wish my parents would have divorced long ago, I got to see what happens when people who fight a lot stay married. 40 years later it is still not pretty sometimes. My H is able to see what happens to families when they divorce. His parents did, mine should have, yet with all our knowledge I have no idea what to do.