Whisper - big hugs to you. I'm divorced. It is normal to experience such emotions when there is a divorce. I think it is healthy, too. Bottling up those emotions is not the way to go. So don't worry, dear.

I was married 16 years (20 year relationship) and it became a one-sided relationship. I was giving and he was not. I know I had my own issues, too, but it just wasn't working, hence the divorce.

I remember feeling angry, stressed, resentful, and other emotions. Even though I was getting out of an unhealthy relationship and that was best - I recall feeling a sense of loss, too. The death of a long relationship that sadly couldn't be repaired.

That was in 2011. I'm am so much happier now, I can't even adequately describe how much better life is post-divorce. My teenager is happier, too. We never fought in front of her but there was so much tension between my ex and me. Kids pick up on things and adapt well to changes, including divorce.

Is my life perfect? Of course not, life always has challenges. I'm in such a better place now and I have a loving relationship with a wonderful man. I feel like I've been given a new lease on life, so to speak. =]

I did see a therapist for awhile that helped me process my feelings. That was a very healthy decision and you may want to see a therapist. You can always discontinue therapy if you find it unnecessary.

However, if you aren't seeing a therapist already I think you will be surprised how helpful it can be. I'm no longer in need of therapy but I'm glad that I was in therapy during my divorce and for awhile after my divorce was final.

I hope you will continue posting as we can support you here. I wish you the best and welcome to the PC forums.