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Originally Posted by ace333
I'm very conflicted. I have been in my relationship 8 years. He and I have had many ups and downs and now finally in a decent place, yet I just don't care. He's very his way or highway, if u don't like exactly all the same things he does or have the same opinions then its a problem. For eight years I have been trying to get this to stop, I have tried to make him more affectionate , to live together and don't even get me started on marriage. He's not completely bad obviously I'd have left long ago if that was all he was. But now I find myself wanting to leave mostly because I'm bored. I don't care what he does who he's with, I wanna be by myself more than with him. I even dare say I want to sleep with other people, not anyone in particular just something and someone new. But I feel guilty since its been 8 years any advice
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The his way or the highway is not good at all.
I'm tempted to say move on. However, you said you're conflicted so you could try couple's counseling to see if your relationship can be repaired. He'd need to fully own up to his issues and you as to yours (we all have issues and it takes two in a relationship) in counseling. If one of you cannot or will not do that, I think the relationship is irretrievably broken.
Your boredom may include feelings of contempt and that is a sign that you should move on, in my opinion. You may feel conflicted because it sounds like he always has to be in the right...and you may be doubting yourself because of those relationship dynamics.
If it were me, I would leave and enter therapy for support. Good luck.