Unfortunately he's not up for counseling, I have suggested it many times for our other issues. He views it as pointless and they aren't going to tell him anything he does already know. With trying new things that's hard as well if its not something or somewhere he wants to go its a no go but when he chooses things whether or not I want to I always have to go. Its another big reason I'm conflicted because there's tons of things and places I want to go and do bit can't because of him or because I spend my money solely on the things he wants to do . and I'm not saying I don't like all of them Cuz I do most of the time. I have always owned up to every wrong , but can't or refuses, previously I was always being blamed for stiff that wasn't even my fault which I guess should be a huge red flag to leave. But now that I just don't care or show any sympathy he's all up my ***** and acting like everything's fine. I've even given him multiple warnings that if we don't live together to plan to get married soon I'm going to to leave, but I dont think he takes me seriously