The best advice anyone ever gave me about my mom is "if she was a friend would you hesitate to go no contact." And honestly I have been cutting out people like my mom for years. I'm glad you are going to talk to some one, you don't deserve to hear these things especially from your mom. Mine likes to call me Peter Pan too, said I never wanted to grow up, basically because my idea of fun isn't her idea of fun.

Hugs hope your doing better.