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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
I do get the feeling that you would need to be able to take a strong stand, and hold your ground, with him if you were to get back together at any point. Some couples are well-matched in this way and easily resolve their differences in this way. However, if one party is looking for, and is needing, the upper hand, the confrontational style will not work so well. It will only continue to escalate.
I am a firm believer in encouraging people to fully evaluate and to make their own decisions on relationships, as they are the ones living in, or saying goodbye to, the relationship. They are the ones who live with the impact upon their lives.
Please show yourself lots of patience and self-compassion.
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I agree. I am learning how to stand up for what I believe. How to say what mean and mean what I say. Something I have never done with him. I'm not sure he is looking for hte upper hand, he just is so used to doing things that way.
Incase some of you have not read threw some of the other things here posted by me, My H has aspergers, so he tends to be a little more self centered. Though I have other friends who have aspergers and they make extra efforts to be very conscious of how they come off to others. I guess I get the worst of it, becasue one has to let there guard down somewhere.
Thank you for you thought provoking words and your encouragement.