"We used to go out to eat and he would say ok, there is X amount of $$. So you keep yours under this amount. If you let her eat off you plate we will not have to pay for her anything to eat and the boys can share a meal. So I get reduced to butter noodles and chicken strips so that little bitty can eat to, while I really wanted shrimp or a small steak. The boys get a sampler so that at least both of them get a little of what they want and we all drink water, but he gets a 15 oz steak with a baked potato and hey can we jsut add a skewer of shrimp, and he'll have tea to drink. "

Oh brother, that says it all! He's so selfish! You shouldn't have even gone with him to restaurants if he treated you all like that. I'd have taken my buttered noodles and dumped it on his head, lol!

I'm in a similar situation, living in the house with husband, but in other bedrooms, no sex, through this summer. Then I told him we'll decide if we are getting divorced.

I realize that my h never put me first. He doesn't really care and love me in the way I think it's supposed to be. He loves me for what I do for him. He doesn't really care that the conflict and stress with him has caused me severe problems. He just wants what he wants.