I guess we can never put our finger on one true reason why our relationships have not worked in the past. So many different things can come into play as to why something worked or didn't work.

I'm on my 3rd marriage now. The first one was a total disaster. It was filled with alcohol, and mental and physical abuse. There was so much that I learned from that relationship that has carried me forward. My 2nd marriage was not a horrible one. My husband and I grew apart. We were so completely different in too many ways. In his own way, he was a good guy. I still care for him to this day and I will always care about him, but never in a way that was meant to be more than a friend. I also learned from that marriage many things about myself.

Now, I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man that pushes me to be my best, supports me when I succeed and fail, makes me laugh, shows me passion, and I could go on and on and on but I don't want to bore you all

What I'm trying to say through all of this is that I believe that even if our relationships fail at some point, does not mean that we are failures. I look at each situation as a learning experience, one that I could grow from, one that I could apply to my life presently and in the future. For all the wrong and bad things that happened in those past relationships, I can turn those things around to be positives in my life.

I did my share of "why me's". I did my share of being down and out because of a perceived failure. Then I realized that not everything that fails or ceases to be is a bad thing.

I know not everyone is in a place to be able to grasp these ideas. And I know that not everyone has the same mindset as I do. But all of this didn't come naturally to me, I had to work at it....I had to play with ideas and notions to get to the point that I am now at. And even though I have a wonderful relationship with my husband now, we live apart, 7000 apart to be exact, so I have learned how to live on my own. It's not that I "need" a man in my life, but that I "want" this particular one

I surely hope that you can find "your" peace soon.

sabby