It is perfectly normal to experience these feelings. It can be very aggravating when you have done all you can think of, and things still don't pan out the way you wanted. People in relationships should always feel appreciated, even if that appreciation is shown in what seems like a small way. I'm sure we have all heard the phrase "relationships are about give and take." It cannot always be take take take; there needs to be a middle ground and compromise. You feeling angry and sad are normal reactions to have. I think it is smart that you want to get everything in order first, especially because of your children.