OK - had a perfect life - or so I thought.

Ran into wife's chats few days back and found flirty text. Eventually she admitted to having sex with three men and not just one over a period of last 4 years. These guys do not know each other and are from diverse background (colleague, unknown executive and a salesman). The sex was infrequent and the emotional infidelity, sexting and catching-up was constant. There ages are 25, 30 and 40. In all three cases, it was the wife who was egging them on.

Wife maintains my always being busy in office and emotional unavailability led her to do this. She feels she was emotionally very vulnerable and needed emotional support post the kid's birth.

Per her diary which I demanded to read, the sex wasn't great and it was more for the guys then for her. Her bargain was the emotional availability of these guys. She used the term 'conquests' for the physical part.

She promises she would never do this again in future and has always loved and wanted to live with me (yea, of course!). This was all about filling a void(gulp).

I am still coming to terms with this and have already done the following:
- In a fit, I ended up sharing all this with her father(who else can I discuss with) and sought advice. She is devastated because of this but feels my reaction is understandable.
- I have thought about physically disabling ALL three of these guys so that they live with social stigma all their life.(why did you mess with my life in the first place? She is her own person but you messed my life as well and this is payback time)
- For the married ones(two of them), bring this cheating to the notice of their spouse (more payback)
- Have thought about divorcing and have met the lawyers. Thinking about my kid and how much I have invested in this relationship and how well it works for me(so I thought), makes this difficult.
- Have thought about reworking as a team and give her a chance
- Have thought about asking her to cut one of her own fingers if she wants to live with me.
- Have thought about making her accept her affairs in writing so that they can become evidence in legal matters in future - if need be.

I have truly loved my wife throughout our 9 years of marriage, have never cheated. She is a "good" wife and mother.

The sex has been steaming hot after this news.

Am I thinking normal? What would you do?