Oh, Humpty, it's OKAY to cry. (Perhaps that's easier to believe and do, because I am a woman?). But it's TRUE. I do not love that society trivializes crying with phrases like "cry baby". First of all, babies cry for reasons and they often need HELP of some kind to stop crying and that's a positive thing, in my opinion, whether you are a baby or an adult. I believe you have some grief, pain, sorrow or something in your life that's causing you to cry. Or perhaps it is a chemical, hormonal or situational depression? Regardless, NOT crying (or believing that you should be able to stop crying) is likely not a helpful answer for you right now. So you can choose, as a step to give yourself permission to cry without shame or guilt. I hope you can do that for yourself

Also, the more you focus on the idea that you should not be crying and that you should suck it up and stop, when you find that you can't stop, it keeps the cycle going and causes you more pain.

I really hope you can find some answers in the ideas and suggestions people have offered and likely will continue to offer. All you can do is take one action at a time to try to deal with this. If one thing does not work, another might. It is so great that you reached out and that you are getting ideas from others. Now you can look at information shared and choose to make on action, no matter how small you think it might be…and chug away at the process of dealing with this challenge.

Good luck to you on this journey and please keep up posted about how things are going.