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Originally Posted by FallingFreely
I agree!
I think it's also helpful to think about what YOU get from thinking about your therapist all the time, and whether or not you'd want them thinking about you for those same reasons.
Personally, I wouldn't want my therapist getting lots of comfort constantly thinking about me. Too much pressure and expectation for me to be a certain way. Though I do hope my therapist thinks fondly of me and values our sessions together.
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A little off-topic but in terms of validation and looking in towards yourself, this reminds me. I used to put my doctors on a pedestal. My family practitioner, the doctor who trained me, my psychiatrist to a smaller degree (meant the therapy was working!)
I looked at it this way: Did I appreciate traits in them that were similar to me or dissimilar? If dissimilar were they better or just different from me? I realized instead of just sitting feeling inferior to them, I could either 1) Adopt some of the traits that I admired or recognize them in myself. If neither of those fit, I looked at traits I DID have that they did not as a medical practitioner. That we all had something different to contribute.