Thread: "It can happen"
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Old Jun 28, 2016, 11:11 PM
UglyDucky UglyDucky is offline
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I'm sorry you didn't get the response you were hoping for. However, I agree w/others who think honesty is best. You stated... "How stupid of me to invest so much time and energy in something that isn't real." The relationship I have w/my T is very much real - real feelings, real thoughts, real interaction. Perhaps you're viewing therapy or your relationship w/your T as something that will occur outside of therapy...in the "real" world? That, most likely, will not happen. But your relationship w/your T in therapy should be very real. Therapy is hard, often baring our souls (and feelings) to someone who can't possibly reciprocate. It makes us vulnerable and open to being hurt. How you think, feel, react, etc. w/your T tells your T what your relationships are like w/friends and family, which should help her help you.

I hope the coming seven weeks go quickly for you. And I hope I've not offended you - I just happen to believe in being realistic about the therapy process. Ts should be supportive and empathetic, but they aren't there to feed a client's delusion that there's a relationship going on that can't possibly happen. Because your T didn't reply as you'd hoped doesn't mean that your feelings for her are less real - or not worth your time and energy.
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