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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
I too have noticed it is a pattern on your threads to ignore what others are saying, I also wonder if this something you do in real life.
People of both genders tend to find that a turn off, a person could be telling the funniest stories in the world but if they are not taking on board what others are saying they are unlikely to want to develop further relationship with that person. Communication is more than what we give out, it's how we allow others to engage too.
Communication skills can be learned.
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This is a really astute observation. I agree that your problem likely has to do with not listening to other people, not allowing a back and forth dialog, and insisting that your flawed thinking is "right" all the time. People who constantly need to be right, and refuse to listen to others' arguments or opinions, are incredibly frustrating and annoying to be around.
You also have pre-determined ideas about women. You think all women are the same and want the same things. Women seem to be inanimate, interchangeable objects to you. You refuse to listen when we tell you "no, women are not like that; I am not like that." You still cling to your distorted beliefs. When you do this in real life, it offends people and turns them off. You don't listen and you don't learn and you don't recognize people's individuality. Any woman considering dating you would want to be understood, heard, and appreciated as a unique individual. You are incapable of giving that to her until you let go of your misguided beliefs about "women are always X."